tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8359127447580954749.post2502158683928592403..comments2024-03-27T13:32:08.475-04:00Comments on SFF Seven Authors: #MeTooK.A. Krantzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06674754426001151828noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8359127447580954749.post-4776007347373361132018-03-05T20:43:15.802-05:002018-03-05T20:43:15.802-05:00Florida vacay is always a good excuse :-) And than...Florida vacay is always a good excuse :-) And thank you :-)Jeffe Kennedyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04779020656676094853noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8359127447580954749.post-7464547035540616582018-03-05T15:13:58.359-05:002018-03-05T15:13:58.359-05:00I'm a bit late reading this (I was in Florida ...I'm a bit late reading this (I was in Florida for the past couple of weeks), but wanted to thank you for sharing this. xoxoJen Twimomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11267405113503713323noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8359127447580954749.post-5272359770987429972018-02-20T11:04:08.914-05:002018-02-20T11:04:08.914-05:00Sorry you had to deal with it! It's so icky - ...Sorry you had to deal with it! It's so icky - having that up-the-line help is invaluable. We need a messaging system...Jeffe Kennedyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04779020656676094853noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8359127447580954749.post-52113616456672789362018-02-20T10:47:24.230-05:002018-02-20T10:47:24.230-05:00Thank goodness for friends at the right place and ...Thank goodness for friends at the right place and right time! It is a sad but true reality, and one that I have had to deal with as well. I'm glad you had the ability to say something up-the-line to help stop it. Alexia Chantelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03048542370172786608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8359127447580954749.post-16037852688089574852018-02-19T23:30:32.541-05:002018-02-19T23:30:32.541-05:00You actually *were* at this one, but weren't n...You actually *were* at this one, but weren't nearby at the moment. So much of this is about proximity and timing... But thank you! <3Jeffe Kennedyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04779020656676094853noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8359127447580954749.post-64994298749263334402018-02-19T22:01:13.816-05:002018-02-19T22:01:13.816-05:00I truly wish we lived in a world where this never ...I truly wish we lived in a world where this never happened. I am truly sorry that it happened ot you and if you are ever at the same convention as me and need an assist....James A. Moorehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07504165634910099365noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8359127447580954749.post-84670532301060368162018-02-19T10:49:29.346-05:002018-02-19T10:49:29.346-05:00Right? As much as it shook me at the time, in retr...Right? As much as it shook me at the time, in retrospect it's "Really?? Are we STILL doing this?"Jeffe Kennedyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04779020656676094853noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8359127447580954749.post-54966325006415313412018-02-19T10:48:41.138-05:002018-02-19T10:48:41.138-05:00Yeah. I can totally see that. Yeah. I can totally see that. Jeffe Kennedyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04779020656676094853noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8359127447580954749.post-87882258019128613012018-02-19T08:12:20.507-05:002018-02-19T08:12:20.507-05:00It's so ~searches for right word, fails~ irrit...It's so ~searches for right word, fails~ irritating that Handsy happened. It's good to see how your network stepped in and stepped up, and that his employer took corrective action.K.A. Krantzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06674754426001151828noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8359127447580954749.post-55774550662809065442018-02-18T23:57:09.011-05:002018-02-18T23:57:09.011-05:00Part of the reason I no longer drink. One of my in...Part of the reason I no longer drink. One of my incidents involved alcohol.HopeT.https://www.blogger.com/profile/09369681648955941145noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8359127447580954749.post-68385754067324483562018-02-18T16:11:14.958-05:002018-02-18T16:11:14.958-05:00That's what I hope, too, Hope! It's funny ...That's what I hope, too, Hope! It's funny how much the surprise can undermine our reactions. And I'm glad you got my point that the perpetrators can sometimes be unaware and need to be educated. (Some of these abusers are full of shit and know perfectly well what they're doing and are very calculated about it. I'm not talking about them.) A lot of people - especially in publishing, I think - don't think of themselves as being powerful or intimidating, and have no idea they're throwing weight around. And drinking plays in. I say that as someone who *loves* to drink. The haze of alcohol obscures a lot of better judgment, unfortunately. Jeffe Kennedyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04779020656676094853noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8359127447580954749.post-6983960752890867472018-02-18T16:07:17.329-05:002018-02-18T16:07:17.329-05:00*kiss**kiss*Jeffe Kennedyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04779020656676094853noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8359127447580954749.post-27807165109472602292018-02-18T15:26:44.293-05:002018-02-18T15:26:44.293-05:00Thank you for this. I am so happy that you are not...Thank you for this. I am so happy that you are not only sharing to enlighten, but also pointing out that he needed to be given the opportunity to evaluate his own behavior. Too often, the hue and cry becomes a beast on its own and this causes those with no frame of reference to accuse the victims of exaggerating/misunderstanding/overreacting/lying. Rarely are the accusations without basis, but the perpetrators are human and make mistakes. We need to remember that without excusing the behavior. He deserved to be reprimanded/punished/shamed (whatever happened) and it is right that you felt comfortable with how it was handled. No matter what happened to him, it is awful that it happened. I'm happy that you point out that with your personality and experience, you were surprised at your timidity in the face of this-- too often we think we will behave powerfully. That isn't always the case.<br />I have dealt with my own share of incidents (working retail can be hell) and being at bookish conventions I have seen situations that could get out of hand. I hope others will see your experience and explanation and use this to inform their own behavior (whichever side of the harassment they might be on).HopeT.https://www.blogger.com/profile/09369681648955941145noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8359127447580954749.post-52827030268347564852018-02-18T15:20:37.981-05:002018-02-18T15:20:37.981-05:00*hugs* *hugs* Sullivan McPighttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15133432350331782496noreply@blogger.com