Sunday, December 30, 2018

Rejuvenation and Goal-Setting

The pattern of frost-filigreed wisteria vines is so lovely. The winter holidays are such a great season for rest and rejuvenation - and our weather in the high desert of New Mexico has obliged with lots of snow and freezing temperatures. All the better to keep me cozied indoors and focusing on both relaxing and giving my mind the room to mull thoughts for the coming year.

I did something a little different this year. Not on purpose, but because in those last few days before guests arrived for the holidays, I just couldn't keep my attention on work.

Instead of fighting that - I let it go.

I spent those couple of days baking, wrapping gifts - and even tandem watching schlocky Christmas movies with a long-distance friend. The upshot is I went into the actual holidays feeling rested and calm, instead of stressed. I'm going to do this every year.

In fact, front-loading rejuvenation time rather than relying on post-effort recovery time is going to be my compass concept for 2019.

The other thing that's happened is that I relaxed and rested enough that I started to get a little bored - which meant I was excited to take on some business tasks, yay! - and my mind wandered quite a bit, of its own accord, to ideas for the coming year. A big part of that is going to be reducing back log and lists.

Some of those things:

Maintain Inbox Zero

Some people can live with full email inboxes. I just can't. I tend to treat my inbox like a To Do list, which means the emails in there weigh on me as tasks that remain unfinished. Worse, emails that are more important, and thus require more effort, tend to languish in there for months, growing hopelessly stale or often forgotten entirely.

To change this up:
  • I already emptied all of my email inboxes and will start the new year with Inbox Zero
  • I will treat email with the one-touch principle - each email gets touched once and dealt with
    • to do this I will either reply immediately or
    • file emails and add any reply tasks to my To Do List instead
  • I'll also continue to check email only a couple of times each day, and then only after I get wordcount

Revivify To Do List

Related to the above, I'm going to make my running To Do List, which I keep on an Excel spreadsheet, more relevant and active. I have that same syndrome where some tasks tend to linger on it for MUCH too long, sliding from one day to the next, until they build up so much inertia from Dread & Procrastination that they feel like insurmountable obstacles.

To change this up:
  • I will minimize tasks that float for a long time by
    • distributing tasks instead of clumping (i.e., if I have a list of things to do for SFWA, I'll put them over several days or weeks instead of all on one day, then moving them as I don't finish them.
    • And if I do move a task, I'll break it up into smaller tasks, then distribute over several days
  • I'll give larger, longterm tasks a category (I already have these, like Finances, Business, Errands, etc.) and subtasks until complete
  • Everything gets this treatment, rather than having very large tasks on my list that float with no progress
Reduce TBR List

Back in 2015, I made a spreadsheet (of course I did!) of all the books in my possession that I hadn't yet read. It lists the format (digital or paper), date acquired, reason to read, etc. I add to it as I acquire new books. All the books that I had at the time I made the spreadsheet got a date of October 27-29, 2015, which were the dates I entered them. When I made the list, I had something like 280 books on it. Today I have 316 and 233 of those are from October of 2015. (To be fair, those represent YEARS, possibly DECADES of unread residency in my life.) This list can feel like a crushing unfinished task, however, so I'm resolved to deal with this backlog.

To change this up:

  • I will read one of these 233 books for every newer book I read, alternating them.
  • I'm reducing my 25% commitment (reading at least the first 25% of every book) to 10%. If I'm not wanting to continue by then, off it goes.
  • In fact, I'm going to get ruthless about this decision-making. If the book isn't making me glow with delight and LONG to keep going, then it goes. 
I've got a few other goal sets on my list - on a spreadsheet, OF COURSE! - but they feel more personal. What about you all - anything you're looking to change up this year?

Friday, December 28, 2018

Finest Holidy Cocktail: Joy

On December 15, eight panicked phone calls and two text messages told me my father had suffered a stroke and was in the hospital. Without surgery, he wouldn't survive, yet the surgeon had to wait 48 hours past the stroke before operating, or Dad would die on the operating table. Then, the day before surgery was scheduled, Dad suffered a much bigger stroke. One that brought the entire ward staff at a sprint.

At 9PM that night, they said, 'emergency surgery.' Dad's vascular surgeon raced to the hospital and shouted down that notion. We had to wait another 48 hours for the most recent stroke lesion to heal a bit. Finally, late Friday night, 12/21, Dad had his life-saving surgery.

When Mom and I went to see him in recovery, afterwards, it was very clear from his reaction that he had not expected to wake up from this one. Not ever.

On Christmas Day, ten days after the first stroke, my father walked (because the hospital couldn't find a wheelchair) out of the hospital under his own power and went home with no appreciable deficit from either stroke event.

So here's the recipe for joy:

1 part relief
2 parts gratitude
1 store bought frozen lasagna put in the oven at the parents' house because all their food went bad over the 10 day roller coaster
1 part getting to say 'I love you'

It's been a strange and miraculous season for us. No matter whether you drink alcohol, or prefer tea (call Miro Tea in Seattle and order up a few ounces of Phoenix Dan Cong), I hope your celebrations have been filled with light and love and second (or third) chances.

Thursday, December 27, 2018

Holiday toast

Folks, 2018 has been quite a time.  A crazy, disheartening year in many ways, but I've made the best of it. 

So, we made it!  Raise a glass.

(For me, said glass will have a whiskey sour.  I go very simple: three parts whiskey, two parts lemon juice, one part simple syrup.  There are plenty of variations, but I don't mess with that when I make it at home.)

So keep doing good work, hold your head up, and keep your powder dry.

Wednesday, December 26, 2018

Ye olde holiday boozy chat

Happy happy, everybody! My family contains many Catholic people plus some Jewish, Baptist, pagan, and agnostic folk as well, so winter holidays are a mishmash of we-all-like-each-other-ness, which makes for a heckuva celebration. It does not require adult beverages, but they aren't discouraged either.

Sadly, it hasn't been cold enough here in Austin for my favorite winter cocktail -- hot cocoa, Bailey's, and mini marshmallows -- but we have made do despite. Last year we didn't cocktail but instead drank a ... well, rather a lot of this South American red wine with llamas on the label, but I couldn't find that stuff this year. (Sadness.) We tried this as an alternative:



...which turned out not to be a complete abomination. I mean, if you accept the fact that you're drinking berry juice that's just a touch bitter, it's really okay.

My preferred cocktailish drink is always whiskey sour made with Makers Mark (I'm a cheap date) or Deep Eddy Ruby Red Vodka with something fizzy like Topo Chico. When accomplished bartenders or trusted friends are in charge, I love me a good Old Fashioned.

But you know what the best holiday mix is? A cozy fire, a good board game, some people who respect each other and can behave like adults despite any differences they may have, and time set aside just for each other. Snuggled, not stirred, and served warm with a side of giggles.

Perfect.

Tuesday, December 25, 2018

Merry, Merry Christmas!

Dear Readers,


Merry Christmas!

Monday, December 24, 2018

Merry Christmas!

I'm supposed to post about a favorite holiday cocktail.

I don't drink.

I LOVE hot chocolate!

Happy holidays, folks!


Merry Book Joy!


I'm supposed to post about a favorite holiday cocktail - okay, I was supposed to do it yesterday - but I'm sharing this fantastic giveaway instead. And drinking the holiday cocktails!

Hope you all are having a wonderful holiday, whatever and however you celebrate!

Saturday, December 22, 2018

My Bookish Anticipations for 2019


I tend to be a week by week person, discovering books in real time, since I do a New Releases post on my personal blog every Wednesday BUT having said that, I do have a few favorite authors with new releases scheduled in 2019 that I can look ahead to and happily anticipate:

Wolf Rain (Psy-Changeling Trinity Book 3) by Nalini Singh. I adore her world of the Psy, the Changelings and the humans. I’ll also be looking forward to the next book in her Guildhunter series because – and this is really rare for me – I have yet to read the latest novel, which came out in October 2018. I’m aware that the book has what is to me an unsatisfactory ending, a cliffhanger, and I abhor those with a wild passion, even when written by my favorite author. (I can handle Happy for Now endings though.) Usually a cliffhanger is enough to cause me to never read another book by that author but in this case, because it’s Nalini, I’m waiting and will read book 11 only when book 12 is available. I trust her to do right by the characters. I just don’t want to wait a year to have the resolution. I’d rather wait a year to read the previous book and then gobble up book 12. Shrug.

Warrior of the World (Chronicles of Dasnaria Book 3) by Jeffe Kennedy, which arrives January 8th – yay! I’ll also be excited to read the next Uncharted Realms book the second it hits my kindle. LOVE that world and any and all stories set therein.

Wild Country (World of the Others) by Anne Bishop. I’ve been hooked on the world of the Others since reading the first novel, so I’m happy the author decided to continue telling us stories set there even after finishing the original series. I wasn’t ready to leave!

Storm Cursed (A Mercy Thompson Novel Book 11) by Patricia Briggs. I never get enough Mercy Thompson stories. Or Alpha and Omega stories, set in the same world. I understand she might release a novel about the blind witch and her wolf in 2019 as well, who have appeared as supporting characters a few times so I have my fingers crossed for that.

I look forward to new books from Ilona Andrews as they are a must click immediately buy for me and I’m sure they have several 2019 titles coming…
Moving away from fantasy, Mary Balogh is my favorite Regency romance author and I hope she has a 2019 release. I enjoy spending time in her well-drawn stories, waltzing and sipping tea…

Ever since I was a little kid, I always put “And surprises…” at the end of my Christmas list, so that’s how I’ll wrap up this post – I’m looking forward to all kinds of good surprises in the form of new books by other favorite authors and new-to-me authors in 2019! My resolution: keep reading (finally found a resolution I won’t break LOL.)